Many female sexual problems are associated with issues of stress, anxiety, and even taboo subjects. It is essential to play down the situation, to know the causes, and to learn how to relax and enjoy full and pleasurable sex.
Sexual problems are widespread, although it is still taboo. Indeed, they can affect both men and women. In this article, however, we will focus on female sexual issues. It is essential to look for their causes, to face them, and to overcome them in the right way. We’re going to introduce you to the three most common female sexual problems and tell you what to do.
Female Sexual Problems
Many of the most common female sexual problems are associated with psychological problems or disorders. In this sense, the affected person may find themselves trapped in a vicious cycle of negativity by feeling guilty about not being able to culminate in intercourse or “disappoint” their partner.
Therefore, most treatments consist of sex therapy. Indeed, the inability or difficulty of maintaining sex can make a woman feel guilty. His anxiety will increase considerably, as well as the problem.
Also, the involvement of a partner is essential. Indeed, his attitude towards women’s sexual problems is fundamental to being able to face them. In this sense, he should never demand or force sex, but he should be understanding and patient.
The collaboration and participation of both are, therefore, essential. This helps to avoid additional stress, to learn together to relax and enjoy sex.
Vaginismus is characterized by the involuntary contraction of the pelvic muscles that surround the vagina. This way, it closes too much. So it causes pain or can even make intercourse impossible. When we experience pain, we talk about dyspareunia.
Its causes can be both physical and psychological:
- Rigid hymen
- Vaginal stenosis
- Anxiety about penetration
- Have been raped or sexually abused in the past
In all cases, the gynecologist will advise you on this subject, telling you what treatment to follow or whether it is necessary to undergo therapy with a psychologist. Also, Kegel exercises are always recommended to gain better control and strengthen the pelvic floor.
As the name suggests, anorgasmia is the inability to reach orgasm. It can occur even when the stimulation is appropriate, and the woman feels sexual desire. Thus, it is often associated with mental problems such as depression, anxiety, sexual prejudices, taboos, etc.
Usually, the treatment of anorgasmia includes specific tasks of self-knowledge. So, for example, getting to know her body, the most appropriate arousal techniques for a woman, using a vibrator, etc.
Also, sex therapy can also be a great ally to overcome this problem. However, anorgasmia is sometimes linked to other causes, such as menopause. In this case, the doctor may prescribe topical creams with estrogen.
Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD)
Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder is the continued lack of sexual desire, the lack of interest in sexual contact that, in many cases, results in it being avoided altogether.
Its causes are mainly psychological. Also, in most cases, there doesn’t seem to be an exact reason for the lack of sexual desire. As a result, many women feel doubly frustrated.
Some of the causes of this disorder can be:
- The stress
- The Depression
- Couple problems
- Hormonal disturbances
- Alcohol or drug problems
Due to the number of causes that can be at the origin of this disorder, it is necessary to perform an appropriate assessment to determine them and thus be able to resolve the problem.
If it is psychological, cognitive behavioral therapy is ideal for addressing it. On the other hand, sex therapy, preferably in couples, can help to overcome it.
Break Free, Relax and Get to Know Each Other
In conclusion, outside of periods of hormonal changes such as menopause or pregnancy, most female sexual problems are linked to psychological conditions of stress or anxiety.
Whether it is because sex is still taboo or for other reasons, you ideal to see a specialist and, above all, to rely on the support and understanding of the partner.
Indeed, in any case, he should not make the woman feel guilty for her sexual problems. Likewise, he should never force the situation. This would only cause more stress and, therefore, make the problems worse.
The main thing is to try to look for the causes and, from there – with patience – to walk the path of self-knowledge from a sexual perspective and the release of prejudices until you can finally have sex pleasant.